Hope is the natural way that a child can see through difficult times. Because children need to be able to see things in a simple manner, hope is their friend. Since it helps us as kids to see things more clearly, it is something we take with us on our childhood journey to adulthood.

3 Ways to Live with Ease

Similar to Oprah, many of us live by these three foundations: the whispers/inner guides, intention, and Newton’s 3^rd Law.

Many of us now understand how to listen to our inner guide or those whispers that show us the way to our purpose. When it comes to intention, we take time to make sure that a positive intention comes out of our action. Oprah says, “The intention you bring to any situation ultimately determines the outcome of that situation.” It is simply the clear reason why we do anything. Also, many of us live by Newton’s 3 rd Law which states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. 

She reminds us that, “If we put positive hope and energy into the world, that’s what comes back to you.” When we don’t follow those guides we hear, follow our true intention from our heart, and act out of ego, we end up doing or having others do unto us. Now we have to practice forgiveness to ourselves and others.

When Hurt Use Forgiveness

We have all heard that those hurting hurt others. When we find ourselves being attacked by others, it usually comes from their ego getting the best of them or they are expressing outwardly the hurt that was done to them in the past. Either way, in comes forgiveness. This word can confuse some because they think if they forgive; it is an agreement with the actions received. This is the furthest thing from the truth. Forgiveness is for us, the hurt party. It is for us to use our hope in the reverse.

Forgiveness is a Gift for You

During one of Oprah’s shows, a guest told her, “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.” She stated, “You give yourself permission to accept and release that what was done and has been done.” When I heard these words during her meditation, it propped me right up. I never heard forgiveness in such a way that made me see it so clearly. Since I may have been stuck in the actions of what the other person had done, I felt marooned with no way out. Now I feel free.

We’re All Knocked Down

Any attack upon any of us is unacceptable. Although some can look horrific, all these attacks are similar. They knock us off our footing and begin to act as a lesson. Some of us become frozen, some become revengeful, and some let the hurt out onto others. What we need to do at this point is to step away to see what might be going on with the other person. Did something recently upsetting happen to them? Is it a repetition that shows us that they are trying to heal from something? Are there things that ultimately beached them in their actions of hurting others because their pain is so great?

As my father took a turn for the worst, his organs began shutting down. Due to his stroke years ago, his body was giving way. When he was first going through his stroke initially, a sibling was the caregiver by their choice. Whenever he was rushed to the hospital, I was always contacted and the phone put to his ear so I could send him my love. While caring for him, this sibling suffered a loss of their own when their spouse died. Because this brought up emotions and feelings that were never dealt with, I was no longer informed of any surgeries or even last rites. Even on the day of his death, I found out by a text from someone else hours after he was gone.

We Pick Ourselves Up

I was normally put to his ear so I could tell him my love for him in the past. Now he was gone and I was left out from saying goodbye. It could have been a situation that kept me beached the rest of my life. However, as I thought about the pain that my sibling was under by their loss and by caring for our father including watching him dwindle, I could imagine the heart ache and could offer my forgiveness.

We Brush Ourselves Off

My forgiveness was just that, my gift to me where I gave myself permission to accept and release that what was done. I couldn’t change it nor could I control their actions upon me. Understanding that their pain was so strong as to reach out and try to destroy another was my lesson. There it was right in front of me.

Would I have wanted to say goodbye and offer my love in those last moments of his life, absolutely. Since I couldn’t at that time, there was nothing that said I couldn’t upon hearing the news. By expressing my love and remembrance to him from my heart, it seemed to immediately work as forgiveness. Since I saw the pure pain that was the root of these actions of a sibling, it was my job to offer them the same love I sent my dad. By sending out this love, it made the unimaginable not so horrific.

Love is Love

Love is love is love. When we remember to love whatever rises, as Matt Kahn says, all ends well. All is well. It’s important to seek out the lessons we’re supposed to learn. Instead of getting our revenge ready, we are helping the other to see and experience true love. Even though they didn’t listen to their guides or put their best intention forward, we have to remember not everyone lives in this manner. They may be missing that most important part of their life, love. Now I can send it as my hope to clear the unspeakable and bring it into its real meaning.

All is Well

This real meaning is shining your light for someone who is drowning themselves. Although it seems too simple, using your hope as you did as a child is the best way to clear everything. We clear the hurt, the pain, and the anguish. Embrace your hope by lifting it up to help others. You’ll see them come out of their darkness. Celebrate your inner child by continuing to bring your hope forward for others.