Many of us have been working on ourselves in the area of letting-go of past drama. Now that we are all homebound due to the covid-19 virus, we may be feeling the emotions that come along with the thoughts. I have to tell you, sitting in your feelings is the best place to be. Being in this place is your answer.

Emotions Bubble Up

Let me explain. As we sit in our feelings and our thoughts, we will experience different emotions and feelings bubble up. These feelings may come with tears, but let it all happen. Some of us may like to refrain from showing our emotions like crying; however this is what your body and mind need to do in order to help heal you.

The Letting-Go Process

This is the perfect time and place to be when it comes to working on the “letting-go process”. Some may have heard others mention let-it-go. That’s different from letting go because as we are feeling our emotions, without reliving the circumstances, we are allowing the emotions to release us. If you try to just let go of a feeling that you haven’t dealt with, it may keep coming back up until you give it the opportunity to leave on its own.

Sitting in your feelings is part of the process. Your question to yourself may be, “How long do I do this and is there anything else to do?” You will see a difference in a few days to a few weeks. You will feel a sense of calm and peace. How can you have calm and peace with everything else around you going on? It is your body and mind releasing those feelings that no longer serve you. They came up and you allowed your mind to feel them. You let the process take place.

Finding Peace in Tapping

In order to keep this peaceful and calm state, go online and find how to do tapping. Based on renowned Tapping expert Nick Ortner he says tapping is a combination of Ancient Chinese Acupressure and Modern Psychology that works to physically alter your brain, energy system and body all at once. By tapping on specific meridian points on your body with your fingertips while talking through your negative memories, it helps you work on a wide range of emotions.

Opportunity to Grow

Now is your opportunity to grow. You are becoming a better version of yourself. Since we all have the time to participate in our lives, we can take time now to notice what behaviors we have during this homebound event. We may notice that we are using food, alcohol or shopping to cover how we truly feel. Instead of doing these activities, what emotions that you were hiding are coming up for you now. Once you take the time to look at these feelings and see why they are here, they will release you since they no longer serve you.

Emotions Before Pandemic

Emotions like abandonment or being left out of your family may jump out for you. These may be feelings that you were working on before this pandemic. Your abandonment feelings may seem to be getting bigger in strength. Six months before this pandemic you were being left out of a family and trying to deal with that pain. Right before the pandemic, maybe you were finding out that a family member passed and no one told you.

These are my examples of what I have lived through very recent. Family members from back east were also on the west coast to attend the services without even letting you know. This is a big message to me to work on the letting-go process for these feelings. I have to remind myself of what things I control and what things are out of my hand.

Things I Can Control

 We have to understand what we can control and what we cannot control. We can’t control what others say about us. We have no control over what they do or where they go. We do have control over ourselves such as our positive attitude, showing kindness, and relaxing our own mind. In addition, we have control of letting our emotions bubble up so they can release and we have control over finding fun things to do to put a smile on our face.

A Better Version of Myself

You’re going to become a new version of yourself through all of this. This is all happening for a reason and you’re evolving. While we live through these school closures and being homebound, you can choose worry or peace. Pick peace. Use meditation to help you stay in peace. If you don’t normally meditate, simply put soothing music on and sit with your eyes open. Let your thoughts come up, look at them with understanding, and watch them release. You will find the space where you’re not worrying and that’s a good place to be. You’re starting to grow and become a better version of yourself.

Cover picture by Denise Lippolis Callahan