When we were a child, we used hope to help us through any situation that found us in fear or bringing up our anxiety. From research, it turns out that we all did this so that we could return or remain in joy & happiness. As an exercise without reliving any actual moments, John Bradford asked Oprah’s audience to peek into the window of our childhood home.

While finding yourself in the house, ask questions to prompt you to see why you have fear or why and when your anxiety comes to the surface. Ask questions such as, “When you take a good look at your life as a child, what do you see and feel? What’s going on with you and your relationships with others in the house? Was there a gift you possessed that others overlooked or missed? Were there burdens were you made to carry? Did anything bring you hope or make you sad?

Wake Up Your Inner Child

As Oprah and Deepak Chopra spoke on their Day 15 of their 21 Day Meditation, it woke up that inner part of me. I peeked into that childhood house and realized the answers to those questions. In addition, it was realized that my hurt, pain, and abandonment came from as a child. Without reliving anything I saw, it did help me to recognize how I used hope to help me through painful times. No family is perfect; however I saw the true dysfunction.

To my amazement and gratitude, I moved to the street that connected me to my true best friend. As we endured pain and hurt in our childhood homes, we had each other to survive the confusion and bring about the hope we used to let our joy and happiness come alive. With pain from death of siblings and watching our parents cover up their hurt, we tried to emulate their every move. Nonetheless, the hope we saw in each other helped us understand the truths. It also helped us move through the sadness and find the way out of the dysfunction.

Using Hope as a Child

If we think back to our childhood, we can see we were badass children. By living with secrets and faults that were constantly covered to try to look normal and perfect, our family’s confidential information eventually came out and created hurt. Untruths, affairs, and broken ideas all found their way to the surface. The remarkable thing that seemed to hold everything together was hope. Since we had a friendship where we helped each other over every obstacle and hurdle, the hope we carried with us as children followed us as we left our families in order to find solace.

Hope Heals Adults

As we grow to adults, we see the journey and significance that hope made in our lives. When we have conversations asking each other how we ever survived such crazy lives as kids, we can always see our hope as we trace back. Hope is a cure, but only when those adults can see their inner trauma. By connecting words to each feeling such as grief, anger, abandonment, and shame, we now know where we should direct our love and hope.

Because these feelings are so powerful from our childhood, some people act out in negative ways as adults. Simply placing your hope of trust and belief into each pain causing situation can help adults when acting out negatively and understanding their hurt. Once understanding takes hold, our minds and hearts follow. It won’t happen with a snap of a finger. Any important relationship takes work and time to make it positive and enjoyable. By using our hope as confidently as we did as children, we can begin to heal those emotions. When we become aware of this, now is the time to share with others.

Sharing Our Hope

Just like we did as kids, my best friend and I have the knack to use our journey to help others. Through her gift of hearing and listening to guides, she can help others towards their pain free life. As I heal from emotions, I share with others on my blog. Right now I’m doing just that. I try to help others see that they are not alone. As we all offer up our hope, we can help heal the world. When we find positivity through our hurt, we model to others with a way out of our past childhood trauma. Hope certainly is a small word with such a huge task.