As you go through your hurt and pain, you may feel like it will never end. Nonetheless, the old saying is true. Time heals all pain. The tough part is getting through the amount of time it takes to let the pain go. 

Sometimes the pain will be so extreme that you will not believe the saying. It is this point where you need to dig deep down inside with all the grit you’ve got and hold on. 

Why It’s Important to Let Go

An important part is letting these sad and painful feelings come to the surface. Many believe it’s a weakness to show your feeling and tears, but if you don’t, your mind may turn to the help of other things like drugs or alcohol to try to soothe and forget. When these feelings come up, let them out. You may need to excuse yourself if you’re watching TV with your spouse or family and venture to a quiet room to let your pain out. 

Releasing your pain this way instead of through harmful ways is safer and healthier. Once you do it the first time, you’ll understand how freeing it is to let your sadness go. Understand that it isn’t a onetime thing. There’s no one and done. It will occur several times for as many weeks or months as it takes. 

The good news here is the more you allow this negative energy to leave your body, the more positive your cells will grow.  Seeds that are spoiled will not prosper, so be sure to release all your pain and sadness when it surfaces in order for you to flourish. 

My Steps Through the Struggle

As I write this, I reflect on the pain of mine that was just cleared through tears. I let the tears come. If a certain topic or situation triggers memories of my conflict, I remember to let whatever needs to arise come out and return to its origin. 

In the past two years, I’ve had to come to the truth that I found out that my father passed through a text. If I think back to my childhood, I would have never guessed this would be the way I heard of his passing. Although it is unthinkable, the pain has been surfacing and resurfacing at home and work. I love myself in the fact that I tell myself that I will let in out when I get home and I allow it to leave at the promised time. While doing those everyday chores, it seems to come up. I’ll be cooking or simply doing a load of clothes. I offer myself love, condolences on the way I heard, and let the tears come forth.

What You Might Feel

You might be wondering the feeling you go through. It’s actually God’s gift to a happy mind. Once these painful memories are shown the door of your mind, happier thoughts rush in. It might sound too easy, but this is the truth. It may happen twice a week and drop to once a week with occasional quiet weeks, but don’t be alarmed if you begin to feel the pain surface twice a week again. It means you are working through it. Savor the days you feel good and take advantage of them. Go to your favorite places and meet with your favorite people. 

As you meander through the process of releasing your pain, be sure to treat yourself with respect. Be kind to you. There’s no set time for this to be accomplished, so take all the time you need. If others ridicule you, keep them at a safe distance of your heart so you can heal. Healing from pain can take time, so surround yourself with loving people and visit beautiful places in nature. Let God help pull the pain out & watch it be replaced with love.