Have you ever been in a place where you finally ask for help to your God, universe, Source and then you come across a video that reminds you that sitting in your feelings is your way out?

Let the Feelings Come Out

Your first thought might be how can that be? Feeling the hurt and pain of these feelings such as unworthy, abandonment, neglected and unseen is the right thing to go through. However, we don’t relive the feelings but in a way that you get the opportunity to cry out the pain to release the pain so your soul and heart heal.

Pushing these feelings down only keep them in your body. We must work through the process of letting them go or as Matt Kahn says letting them let go of us.

Using Old Patterns

This all came about when I finally published my parenting book, Parenting Scholar Athletes. https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578909499 I created a family moment when I actually pushed the issue of bringing a family member my book. Because I wanted someone in my family to acknowledge my accomplishment in a way I expected, it seemed to have a mind of its own.

First of all, I did the pushing to create something I figured out I did as a child. In order to be heard or seen, I would push my goals or end outcomes in front of my family in order to feel love.  

Secondly, it turned out to be a lesson in disguise. When outcomes shake you to your core, be sure to look at the occurrence as a whole. You’ll see how the universe seems to step into the happenings ‘of’ the world to show you we’re only ‘in’ it.

Last, if you focus on the event as a whole analyzing the feelings and emotions brought up and not who did or said what, you will definitely get to the answer quicker. By only looking at what the humans in the story did or said will only keep the hurt feelings active. Concentrate on why you feel those certain emotions and figure out when they came up in your past.

Feeling Past Childhood Trauma

When I found that the feelings I had came from my childhood, it all started to make sense. As a child, I created this persona where I was the one who stepped in to save the day or family. Acting like Under Dog, I tried to show my work in order to receive accolades. Because my family wasn’t like that, they were viewed as not such a big deal when they felt like the world to me.

Since I experienced being unseen when others looked at my book without any congratulations, my child strategy pushed its way forward. I made sure I heard about how I felt when I should have worked on merely listening.

Synchronicities are Amazing

I learned in one day from two similar spiritual speakers that we need to sit in our feelings, feel and analyze them, and ask a higher level to come and work on them. No more are the days where my our ego is in control. The other stated it as absorbing the feelings and then letting them transcend or transmute with the help of a higher level at work.

In both cases, we need to feel the emotions, be ok with ourselves by not judging, and let our God or Source work it out. If we allow the feelings to roam where the lesson is, we learn where they came from and have an opportunity to heal them simply by feeling and being okay that they showed up.

Follow the Path

Once I sat in the feelings and asked for help, Kyle Cease’s amazing video showed up, The Great October Awakening. How amazing that his friend and colleague Matt Kahn was on the same wave length using different vocabulary on his zoom meeting. Home – Matt Kahn

They both feel the collective and are brave enough to open up their own souls to us. In combination with Matt Kahn’s zoom meeting, I became armed with the best spiritual practices and strategies to help me release those old feeling patterns.

I’m lucky to have my friend to bounce my ideas off knowing I’ll get the truth is a kind manner. After I shared the amazing shift I felt by connecting all my synchronicities, she had this to add. I share her words because she has such an in depth knowledge of spirit.

Process for Healing

Sometimes, when we think we have healed a situation from our childhood. But to our surprise, we find ourselves right back in the midst of healing a childhood trauma again. And that is okay. Not everything can be healed right away. We may have carried a situation or behavior for years and only know how to deal with it as our childhood self did. But then circumstances will bring that situation up again and again until with sit with the pain and the suffering, and allow ourselves to process it – however long it takes.

Realizing Old Patterns

As for Pilar’s recent issue, she wanted her family to be supportive and caring. When they weren’t, the situation came up again for healing. Pilar’s belief since childhood was that she should somehow be able to fix the broken aspects of her family. Spirit has shown her now, that it is not her responsibility to fix others and that she can no longer approach this from a child’s perspective.

 Pilar can only work on herself and her own wounds by sitting in the pain of rejection, fear, anger or whatever emotions and feelings that come up for her. By doing so, she becomes open to healing her life. She allows others to be who they are and doesn’t taking others’ behavior personally. learning from her past, she moves forward without repeating those behaviors from the past.

The Healing Process Takes Time

That was a huge aha moment for Pilar, and this didn’t happen overnight. It is that this time, for whatever reason, she was able to see the connection to her past. With a little help from someone who has known her since childhood, she did the hard work and now it is paying off for her.

By releasing all of that pain and those people, she has a new way to deal with those issues. When they come up again, and they will, and she is rewarded. With a more peace, understanding and freedom, there will be nothing holding her back from her greatest potential!

Shifting is Miraculous

The shift came when she reminded me that as a child I pushed things. That is all I knew to do, so I could get the attention I wished. I suffered because I wasn’t seen or heard. As you connect to Source asking why It doesn’t listen, it’s because you don’t need to be heard to defend that old feeling pattern. You are in the shift. I literally felt it as I sat on my couch. Although it was gray and cloudy outside, it seemed to get brighter.