What heals us is spending time with that emotion. It’s the process of letting the feeling of emotions bring forth specific ones and letting them surface. This allows all of those moments and experiences attached to our past, such as respect or disrespect, come to light.

As we follow these emotions given, we revisit them but not wallow in the hurt. Our job is to let these visions and reminders show us what feelings are to be explored and released. When these surface, it may feel like continuous noise as if you’re at a child’s birthday party. It’s this feeling of having a noisy mind that scares most of us away. Right away, we feel we have to drop it and run.

Feeling Negative is not a Failure

When we let the feelings of a bad day surface, it isn’t a failure. We shouldn’t think that we can’t handle our own luggage or we are out of control. In reality, it is our soul’s way of bringing to our attention what is next to being healed. So don’t take it as a judgment against yourself, but perhaps as a gift from your soul. 

On an emotional level, what heals us is just the time we spend in certain emotions. ~Matt Kahn (Everything is Here to Help You) from conversation with Anita Moorjani.

This is very true. It is in our journey already made for us where we need to learn through these experiences in our human life. It isn’t about what process to use, although the processes we know help us grow, but the quality of time we spend within the emotions that are revealed. 

Fight or Flight

Some of us are conditioned to use flight instead of fighting through the feelings which in turn overwhelm us. In fact, some of us are so judgmental towards ourselves when we feel these emotions that we take them as a negative. Because we only want what feels good, it is not a great feeling when our emotions ambush us this way. When in fact, it is just the next step in our own healing process to become the best light worker we can be. Somewhere in us we know it’s time to deal with our past upsets. Most often than not, we just want to avoid any pain or distress connected to them.

As these feelings from past upsets come forth, let your emotions come out. You may have these happen at work so be sure to reveal these with those that are safe or by simply taking a restroom break by a quiet moment in the stall.

Once the emotions have been released, it will lighten your load; however the feeling of judgment likes to reappear as guilt. Remind yourself that letting your emotions surface and come out is acceptable. As you continue through this upset, emphasize to your heart that this is a positive action. Sometimes we just need to refresh our thoughts and remind our heart that although different, it isn’t negative.

Look for the Lesson

Now that it’s all out of your system, you may think, now what? Simply breathe, visit what comes up with these memories, but don’t actually relive them. As you browse through, it will indicate to you where the initial feeling formed.

You may be surprised to see that something from your adolescent years was triggered. Support yourself by reviewing the emotion from the past. This will help liberate and actually help you figure out who you truly are. You may realize that the feeling of disrespect has been thrown towards you many times in your life. Now that you see it, it shows you how strong you’ve been for being the loving person your heart has always needed.

Practice Makes Perfect

Although we have a set amount of time in a certain emotion, we may still investigate different ways of helping us resolve and release the upset. Meditation, tapping, and even reacquainting with nature are great ways of turning your negative emotions into those of love.

Some of us have used those flight aspects of drinking, drugs, and even overeating to deal with these moments when these feelings and emotions surface. By using one of these processes for your soul, you are reaching out with love to help navigate through the pain. This is the best way to learn from and conquer the feelings that are reaching out to be loved.

When you use meditation or tapping, you may feel the simplicity of healing in a short amount of time. Even though you may have released some of the upset, be sure to continue to practice through meditations and tapping to clear the emotions for good. Work and the actual people at work will not change. However, you have the knowledge now to embrace the upcoming stretch of time to stay in it and fight by not running away like you were accustomed to do with flight. It may take time, but by practicing these loving methods to yourself, you will find how easily peace shows up.

Enjoy the Process of Healing

Sometimes this ease or feeling of peace is new to some of us and it freaks us out. We’re not living with the noisy mind and it’s quiet. Since it is new, it scares us. We are so used to the noise, that we feel it’s our job to create something to feel instead of feeling our new pleasant awareness. As you work with one feeling such as disrespect, you will have the opportunity to see how it was used against you in order for you to pinpoint where to direct your love. Once you acknowledge the vision with love, it is ready to be released. It’s similar to holding onto some old items in your closet. When you’re cleaning out the old items, you acknowledge where it came from, give thanks for what it showed up for, and then you release it into a bag for someone else to use or simply into trash. 

Let your heart know that this is the place to be. By telling your brain and heart that this happy place is the best environment to live in, both your heart and mind will continue to seek this place out more often helping you to continue to grow in a loving manner.